Quote: One book I'm reading called Real Love says that nothing you do will change your partner until they are ready to change ON THEIR OWN (we knew that), so you basically have three choices:
1) live with it (the behavior) and hate it 2) live with and like it 3) leave.
Or live with your spouse and actively deal with the issues.
In a relationship with the associated dynamics that are involved, the two of you together are creating something of a separate entity. A "we," if you will.
As the other member of a two-member relationship, changes that *you* make *have* to change the relationship. When the relationship changes, the other member of that two-member entity has to change.
Your spouse always has the same option you do, which is to change because they are no longer at peace with the relationship or leave the relationship. But, if you change how you act and react, your spouse will have to because the ying no longer exists for them to yang against.
But the spouse that is unhappy has got to be willing to break out of their own comfort zone.
