I'm feeling a lot more positive at the moment but I'm hoping there isn't a backslide looming.
I treated my daughter before bed and will be combing through in the morning and washing it out. it's difficult because I can only treat her when I've got her, I just need to hope my W pulls her finger out when I don't.
Up and at them today with my D5, going to take her to a local park as there is an event on to celebrate the queens birthday.
I feel the anxiety building because I know at some point I'm going to see my W today. Need to remember to stay strong and show her that my life is just fine without her. I'm also nervous about her reaction to me challenging her regarding the unacceptable condition of my daughter.
Hi Kyler. Stay strong mate and re the care of your D , your her dad and her welfare comes first , just handle it as best you can because it's a very emtional subject for you and W
Kyle, don't look at it as challenging her. This has an adversarial overtone to it. You are co-parenting and you're doing this in the best interest of d5.
You can call me Dory/ Grl.
As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"
It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.
Yes, focus on collaborative problem solving instead of challenging....some useful statements...
I'm sure we're both doing our best in difficult circumstances here... How do you think we can best handle things WRT D? I feel upset when I see her this way. What can I do to help? I'm finding this difficult too - what do you think is the best way forward? How do you think D is doing? Are there ways we can make this better for her?
These might not be entirely suitable to the circumstances, but you get the feel of how the tone of the interaction could go....and of course these are great skills to develop for any potentially challenging situation I think.
JMHO of course
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I'm simply going to address the specific issues at hand in a calm and confident way.
Sounds good, Kyle.
Sotto's suggestions are great. Good to mentally prepare in advance what you're going to say to W. Have some of the stock phrases ready and be ready to validate.
You can call me Dory/ Grl.
As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"
It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.
So I've dropped my D5 back off with my W and spoke to her regarding the issues with my D. My wives reaction was to laugh! I didn't react or get angry and kept it simply business but inside I was raging.
I feel really conflicted about how I feel about her today.
So just found out that my W has booked a holiday for the 1st July, going on her own, without actually figuring out who's going to have my children while she's gone.
It angers me because she is struggling financially and that money could have been better spent on the kids and the home.
