Sara, when you have the time, you may want to drop in on Phoebe's thread. She has really got this db stuff, especially the GAL and firm boundaries issues. I like to read her thread as I find it very soothing and inspiring.
You can call me Dory/ Grl.
As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"
It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.