Anytime you feel like reacting, don't. You have to detach and treat H like a difficult patient.
Please vent here, instead of venting at your H. You have already let rip into him a few times. A 180 would be not to let rip into him anymore.
Use your anger constructively.
Like what V said, you must start planning for yourself to see what legal actions you can take to protect yourself and kids. You dont have to tell him. In fact, you should stop being so transparent and available, emotionally or physically.
Detach, go dim, act as if you're getting on with your life. Better still, do get on with your life!
For me, the easiest way to signal a change was to change my appearance. I coloured my hair, put on makeup again and changed what I wear. I used to shelp around in berms and tees but after BD, I always made sure I make an effort to look decent before I step out of the door. This change in me really made a difference. People, as well as the x and xfil, noticed.
How are your GAL activities going on?
You can call me Dory/ Grl.
As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"
It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.
