This board is not just about updating. You need to be here every chance you have, reading and learning. What exactly have you learned and applied to your situation......besides not believing what she says (which you really haven't learned, IMHO).
LFM, I am going to be very plain with you. You are living in a fantasy. Your W is wayward and she has made no progress at all, therefore, the MR has made no progress. She announces to her H when she's going out with OM, going to see OM at his house, etc. And what do you do? What are your boundaries? Have there been any consequences to your W cheating on you?
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but feel like my W if coming out of the fog a little bit. She has explained to me that she knows that she needs to break of the relationship with the OM, but is struggling with how to handle it
So tell me just why you think she's coming out of the fog? You are delusional. This is nothing more than a stall tactic and she is not trying to end things with the OM.
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I'm hopeful that we're getting closer to piecing, but know there's a ways to go before the OM is out of her life and I still question wheter she'll ever be able to cut off contact with him.
Get this, if you do not get anything else. As long as she is in contact of any TYPE with her lover, the M is doomed! It cannot work with the three people in it. She is addicted to the affair and that's why she continues to go back to the OM. She has to go cold turkey and never see or speak to him again. No texting, no emails, no work contacts, nothing!
In the meantime, I suggest you go get your b@lls out of her purse and start acting like a man who deserves to be respected. All you tell us is what she has done. What are YOU doing, besides waiting on the sidelines and lying to yourself about how things are slowly moving ahead?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
