As long as WW has contact OM the draw will be there.
You can't be 'husbandy' because all WW is doing is faux wifey. When WW shows intent to choose you as her H you are her H.
I think you have the gift of time. Stay in the MBR when she changes job agree a move back in date, if she doesn't it's ok and you know where you are. Agree date nights and times you will be together, lead on this.
The key is detachment, fine if she does and fine if she doesn't. That's key.
Let go of WW actions, words and thoughts driving your emotions.
That's letting go of WW driving you. Like being behind an out of control speedboat water skiing. Drive your own speedboat.
Detachment is like two tug of war combatants on each end of a rope over a snake pit trying to pull the other in. If one of them lets go then neither falls in the pit.
So let go, detach.
That's different from unattaching. You are attaching to you.
Move forward with your goals (not move on), let WW work her stuff, give her space, the door is open. If OM is in the background or a new OM then deal breaker? It is a boundary?
Observe.
I write about third position observer mode, an NLP strategy, my go to for detaching. If you wish to know more I can give you a link.
Your WW has to respect you, that's not being secretive (which seems passive aggressive and looks like game playing to me). Strong boundaries are direct and enforced, in the meanwhile get on with your life.
Great if she gets her stuff together and ok if she doesn't.
You are on hold until she changes job, ensure your boundaries are absolutely clear to her.
So what exactly are your boundaries?
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Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
