I guess I'll address these as you had them.

1) You guys are silly!

2) Yes, it's for me. I can keep up a George Costanza like scenario around strangers, but I'm an open book around the people that know me. If she suspected I was putting on an act, she would bust me cold.

3) Gotcha. She asked if I was doing any more meetup stuff, and I gave a pretty truthful answer. Not sure, and listed a couple things I saw was going on. She's interested in what I'm doing because my demeanor has changed. (More below)

4) Doing pool time for S, so he can have Mom and Dad around at the same time. No talk other than S related, unless she wants to initiate and I become the lighthouse. Never throwing out stuff about myself, only sharing when directly asked.

My demeanor has changed because I've accepted 2 things:

1) My marriage to this woman is over. I don't want to be married to the woman I see, because she's not the woman I love. She's not nearly as good of a Mom, is cold, nonsensical and selfish. My job is to work on me, be a lighthouse and be Daddy.

2) I've accepted that this is not my fault, and that this is about her. She took months to change into this strange person, and she won't change back in a few weeks. I can't fix it, and trying will only make sure she pushes D ASAP.

It hasn't been easy, but I've gotten to a good place.


Me: 35 W: 32
S: 4
T: 6 M: 4
Physical Separation official: 5/21
Currently: DR/DBing, Focusing on me and son

Cheating on a good person is like throwing away a diamond and picking up a rock.