New thread, same problems!

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This is a good step!
It really hits home when the WW starts to neglect the children, those they say are the most important part of their life. It's taken me 3 weeks, but I've taken to heart what so many kept telling me. WW isn't my wife. Be a lighthouse, be mysterious, do what you can to keep busy and grow. It works. And you're not hanging on every word they say, you're just a sounding board for them, validating and showing them you are confident in yourself whether she's around or not. (Doesn't mean you don't have times you cry, are angry or somewhere in between. It just means you project yourself in a positive manner.) It hurts to hear in the moment, but when you accept the M is likely over, you view things differently. Do you WANT to be M to WW? No!!

One thing I have been wrestling with is the idea of giving up. I think about it a lot when she does things that just don't make sense. Just keep in mind: The woman you love IS in there. The waywardness just makes sure she barely comes out, and that's who you're dealing with now.

Keep on top of those kids, make sure you come down authoritatively when you spot areas of neglect!