What Should I be doing (5)

[Coconut]

That sounds like a great plan Nut, no harm can ever come of working on you and taking time to enjoy yourself. Hope you have a fantastic day and evening.

Let me ask you one thing, in the last sentence you said she is not going anywhere. What if you come home later and find out she did make plans and enjoyed a nice day like you plan on doing? Will you be ok with that, will you question where she was and who she was with?

When I said that I meant I believe she's committed to working on us and not leaving M. As for today, she's in fire academy until 5pm, then she mentioned going back to station later to wash her gear (they can't wash it at home because smoke has carcinogens and they don't want the firefighters to bring that home). If she also went out on top of that, I'm sure I would have anxiety (thus need to detach), but I'm trying to make the conscious decision to be ok with it and not feel like I need to control everything (the old me).. It's a work in progress but something that I know needs to happen.