Cheaters are cheaters and wayward because they choose to be.
Further your WH chose to cheat again after feeling entitled to cheat again. Otherwise he would have made a different choice.
Does that mean you are plan B?
Who knows?
It means you were gaslighted, from his attitude I would say deliberately. This is nothing to do with you, it's WH with being a father and having a vulnerable wife plus new born, he had other choices. He was selfish and entitled and it is dreadful.
Go be mad, be angry.
It's a 180 Right!
Say your piece, call it. I give you permission.
Calling it over and over again, won't help.
Once is enough.
After that call him on it here, rant away. He needs a name, cheater pants or scum or crum bum, you name him. OW to have a name too, ho ho comes to mind, crotch features. What sort of person has an A with a man whose W just had a child? A ho ho hum. Nasty wormy creature, willy warmer. Scabies face. Brazen slut features. I got those names in spades for these horrors.
Teach WH how you are to be treated, with respect, if that takes L action and holding him to his bargains for you and the children, then it does.
No procrastinating on this.
My thinking is these are phrases you can say:
'WH there are consequences for your behaviour" "WH I want more than crumbs. And your behaviour of me is crummy" "WH I want a loving healthy R, without gaslighting" "Really WH I deserve better than this treatment" "I am ok, this A was your choice and is your responsibility not mine" "I feel you did a bait and switch" "We both know the truth" -------------------------------
Treat yourself with love care and respect,from a healthy place.
SS, this WH isn't your sole source of you. You are.
Belive your higher power will guide you and heal.
You are emotionally available to WH who is choosing to be in an A.
You let it rip, good for you, I am pleased to hear it. Truly I am, it's a great clue to you moving to the next level of the Kubler Ross Grief curve. Right on cue,I have been waiting for this in your posts and I am so pleased for you.
This is the start of shift.
Good for you.
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
