Sister, I am so happy to read this. You really rocked this weekend. I, too, think the analogy rocked and you were so creative in finding a different way to handle it than in the past. If I were there I'd pat you on the...back...too. (Although I'm sure that the thought of two HD chicks patting each other anywhere is enough to throw these horny bastards into a frenzy, ha haa)
I also wanted to share with you something that H and I came up with this weekend that might be of interest to you. Since I am growin every day, hugs are becoming increasingly difficult. Right now, we stand with our feet far away from each other and then just lean in with our upper bodies until the shoulders meet..are you followin this? Well I suggested this weekend that we start hugging with my back to him. This has worked out great! I was thinking that maybe it would work for your H too. It is not so encompassing and engrossing b/c his arms are the only one actually hugging. I just stand there and enjoy the closeness. Also there ample opportunity for his hands to wander to the twins and that always helps. But I thought of your H and his difficulty hugging and wondered if that would help him...to not feel the somewhat smothering feeling of having arms around you and your front completely covered.
Just some thoughts and wanted to let you know that I am so glad for your kickbutt weekend.
That way of hugging might be better. In an odd way having large breasts actually gets in the way of intimacy/comfort with a normal hug. I still predict he will start goofing around in short order, however.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
My H and I had a long talk about various PM concepts on the phone today. He is totally on board and told me he thinks it's great that I was brave enough to differentiate and break up the insipid status quo of our SSM. He expressed that he was very happy with the way things are going and was actually being quite romantic. He said that he had always believed that a successful long term marriage was something you had to work at and he is ashamed that "he could talk the talk, but not walk the walk" and he is very committed to holding up his end of things now.
Now for the weird part, that I'm sure is instuctive. We completely agree that things are much better now and we completely agree about the factors that contributed to our current success, but we are in total disagreement as to how important each factor was. My husband gives my weight loss much more importance than I do and I give his dealing with his grumpiness much more importance than he does. We both agree that my strong stand was quite important and I gave him credit for not settling for sex with a woman who didn't seem to respect his preferences.
I really think we might be spending the rest of our lives in a super-sex marriage.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
I have been having a rest from this forum while I differentiate and make some risky disclosures but I had to post this quick message today because dear W is making me feel absolutely fantastic. I don't know what she is doing but what ever it is I have completely full love tanks! She is just being so nice to everyone. Over the last week or so I have been putting her under some pressure by disclosing that I feel we should be aiming to build a Passionate Marriage. She has complained of the pressure but I suggested that the pressure was all hers and that she should think of ways of dispersing it and recognising it for what it actually is ie. love. I also told her I believe that we are now old enough to grow up and start working on our future happiness. I think she might be listening at last. Of course I might be wrong and by tonight we could be deep in the gridlock again but you never know, it might be the turning point so I feel it is worthy of an entry in the Super Success Stories thread! All the best to everyone, SD
Well super, this is just what I wanted to read! I am so happy for you and glad that your wife is waking up to what a wonderful catch she has on her hands. (and hopefully you will be in her hands soon..:)
