Infidelity/WAH, my story pt 2

[PsySara]

I went to bed around 8:30 last night (severely sleep deprived) and woke to a text from WH asking if I was awake. I responded I was and he asked me to call him. I called him and he asked about the kids, I answered calmly and matter of factly and after 1 minute of this I went back to bed. The baby woke around 2:30 am and I was making him a bottle when suddenly I had an epiphany. My H and his AP betrayed, lied and cheated AGAIN and H is mad that I screamed, cursed and threatened his girlfriend. Let that sink in...he's mad that his wife yelled at him and his girlfriend after their disgusting behavior was found out.

I stood there in the kitchen and started to laugh. It so unbelievably absurd that he thinks he has a leg to stand on. He's so self righteously angry and he thinks he gets to have a vote. It's so absurd there isn't a word descriptive enough to label it. I fell asleep quickly after the baby went back to bed.

I went over my boundaries again (mentally.) These were my conditions for reconcilation that he agreed to in DEcember

NC with OW
Read materials to try and understand what he's done to me
Constantly check in with me and provide complete honesty and transparency

These were the major requirements. As we can see, he did none of the above. Now I am at a crossroads, do I stay or do I go? Since I am still so raw I need to stand still and take stock. He still shows no remorse or desire to save our marriage, his fog is deep. I need to view him as a delusional patient, to be viewed with compassion and some pity. He is enraged because yesterday he called OW and she told him, "I can't do this anymore, it's gotten out of hand." WH is literally acting like an angry teenager who is grounded. He speaks to me very nasty and with a hostile tone. I told him clearly that if he was going to come to my home and see his children that he would need to speak to me with a normal tone and no sarcasm/hostility/anger. If he cannot do this then he cannot stay in my home and will need to find a hotel or just go back to his work state.

On the more concrete, immediate plans. He will be coming here on Monday. I am deciding if I should pick him up from the airport or let him figure out how to get here via taxi/train. But I do plan on leaving him home with the kids every day and evening. I will go to work during the day and then hang out with friends in the evenings. Our time is running short before I move and I want to say my goodbyes. While HWH is home I will be cordial and distant. I will not engage in fights or rise to argument bait. I WILL DETACH!