My H and I had a long talk about various PM concepts on the phone today. He is totally on board and told me he thinks it's great that I was brave enough to differentiate and break up the insipid status quo of our SSM. He expressed that he was very happy with the way things are going and was actually being quite romantic. He said that he had always believed that a successful long term marriage was something you had to work at and he is ashamed that "he could talk the talk, but not walk the walk" and he is very committed to holding up his end of things now.

Now for the weird part, that I'm sure is instuctive. We completely agree that things are much better now and we completely agree about the factors that contributed to our current success, but we are in total disagreement as to how important each factor was. My husband gives my weight loss much more importance than I do and I give his dealing with his grumpiness much more importance than he does. We both agree that my strong stand was quite important and I gave him credit for not settling for sex with a woman who didn't seem to respect his preferences.

I really think we might be spending the rest of our lives in a super-sex marriage.

"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver