Listen to Sandi!!! My W, as far as know isn't involved in an A. But there is no way for me to know that. There is no way that I can be 100 percent sure. So I have had to stop snooping and stop worrying. It isn't doing me any good. What did start doing me good was figuring out what my part was, what I did. I figured out a couple weeks ago that I am a verbally/emotionally abusive man. That defined my W and that I connected myself to her. My W keeps saying she doesn't know what she wants right now. Well guess what. She reads the novels Sandi is talking about. She has many male friends in her work field. There are many possibilities that she can run off with one of them. And you know what, I am worried about that right now, because I have left her emotions wide open and vulnerable. But I can't control that. I can control me and becoming a man only a fool would want to leave. That's what I'm doing. I will be ok either way You must read Sandis post over and over until sinks in
M 37 W 30 S 7 Together 10 years Married 9 years BD: 12/12/12(W filed same day) I moved to apartment 1/11/13 W and S moved to MIL 1/11/13 Peicing: 6/3/13 Reconciled: 7/2013 BD2: 4/20/16 still working on it
