"Unfortunately, you are right that a lot times an WAS will not notice the changes, efforts, of an LBS"

To me this is 100 percent true if there is an OM in the picture.
It's like we say all the time. It won't wake in 3-way marriage. It's why to me if there is an OM you have to drop the rope, LRT, etc
Cause nothing you do is going to matter as long as their attention is elsewhere

Betterm!!! You are doing great man. Love how you are handling everything right now. Keep giving yourself time.
your attitude is in the right place. Keep it up

M 37 W 30
S 7
Together 10 years
Married 9 years
BD: 12/12/12(W filed same day)
I moved to apartment 1/11/13
W and S moved to MIL 1/11/13
Peicing: 6/3/13
Reconciled: 7/2013
BD2: 4/20/16
still working on it