Will come back on later tonight..but need to quickly vent...
I'm really annoyed. Husband just sent me text informing me he is taking me off of car insurance. (I was forewarned a few days ago). He has every right to do that. I know that.
But he walked away from us. Had it set up so that he was not responsible for housing (since we were all living with my parents for a year), would not pay child support till I took him to court. I have not asked him for his share regarding extra curriculars and have not asked for alimony. My parents babysit while I am at work and they have not asked for any money. Technically he would have to pay 2/3 childcare while I am at work. He claims to have no savings but earns nice salary and lived expense free off of my parents and now his mother. He should have no debt either. He had me taken off his health insurance before BD, since my plan was better.
I am so tempted to respond with a nice " F you"... I just didn't respond. I'm breathing deeply instead.
I read about these guys on here whose wives are in open relationships, lying and cheating and they continue to support the kids and household and family.
I remember taking my car to HIS friends wedding because of the weather and him getting annoyed because I didn't have my credit card and he needed to pay to fill the car with gas before we could go. we got into a fight over paying for my miscarriage bill! (I paid)
I work and have always contributed. I don't really care about the actual money. It's more the principal. Some sort of chivalry would have been nice. I cant expect it now, when it was never there to begin with. I understand that. I can't be resentful because I was not asking for more either.
my husband went to top schools and has a great education and job.. there is no rational to this. He resented me when I went down to part time even though I still contributed the exact same amount...all it did was prevent me from saving.
He never saw us as a family unit. i asked so much for transparency and when I did, he would get annoyed and viewed it as me criticizing. When I found out his earnings during the child support meeting I was pissed because we could have afforded so much more. He claimed he was spending 1500/month on his car!
Maybe I was too practical. I thought he was honest and treated me as an equal and didn't play games. But I think next time around romance and some sort of chivalry might be nice.
I looked past so many things simply because he wasn't a womanizer. To me in my early 20s that meant...great guy.
So now, once things settle what do I actually look for in a partner? my selection process is obviously way off.
I hate how he plays mr. Nice guy now. Little laughs and fake friendliness. Like he is the greatest husband and person in the world and I was this lazy, verbally abusive wife that didn't even do his laundry.
I hate his lies that make him look innocent and play me at fault. The continued claims "you pushed me out" and then that bullshit statement " if it was up to me you woukd have nothing to do with son". When I really said " I hate losing him on the weekends" .
I just don't want any interaction with him at all. I don't like him. I don't respect him. I want nothing to do with him. Obviously he felt that way about me first or we wouldn't be here.
Once it's all in writing it will get easier. I know.
I know other people have it so much worse. He could be worse. But I'm still upset. I never expected to be a divorced single mom. It's not a role I ever imagined myself in. I am like, MISS STABILITY. So this is very unsettling for me.
This was a longer venting session then i expected.
I am saying nothing. Because I have no legal right but to accept that.
