Cnut has good advice... I would talk to your L again, and I'm not sure what state you are in, but if she's openly stating she's going to falsify abuse, I'd look into some kind of security cams, recording options, but NOT to beat her in argument, only to protect yourself in case she does do such thing. But, first, talk to your lawyer again about all this.
Weed isn't something they change custody over anymore, it's got to be something that's provable to directly damanging the children. Do NOT GIVE HER MONEY. If they kids are starving, offer to pick them up and go out to eat. If she needs GAS to do something for the little one, first offer to do it yourself, if she declines, (some might disagree here), but meet her at the station and put 5-10 bucks in, just enough to get where the kid needs to go, but don't ever, ever, give her cash.
I read the post, but I might have missed this part, what was the OM convicted of? major? minor? abuse? drugs? There are a lot of MR issues that people will want to know, so I'd suggest following up with MR details, timelines, etc. and in the meantime, waiting for responses for people on this forum, DO THE HOMEWORK READING CADET GAVE YOU. It's the best thing you can do for yourself, and your kid right now.
