I am also on year 8..... I also went by a different screen name which included my D8's name......
I did not know you are a fellow nurse! I work in corporate finance as one now for healthcare system. My job is, um, boring, but it pays the bills and provides me with a great work life balance. I am back in school for my BSN to add to plate. I am scare I may never get back into bedside due to being out for so long. You might want to look into auditing, it's great for those want to slow down. I am the youngest nurse in my department. The rest are going to retire here.
Stable is good. I worked a lot on healing, acceptance of OWW, particularly in my D's life. Sometimes I am just surviving, others can be good.
No major R's for me, my last one was 6 months, but powerful in many ways. I also, overcompensate. My R's have been very much as you describe. I have been a placeholder, a place of comfort, and a Band-Aid for some. My last one, well, claims to still love me, does nothing about, and moved on to someone else in a blink of an eye.
Reviewing what worked and what didn't is the best course of action. It's silly to keep doing the same thing and expecting different results, right?
I am taking a hiatus from self work. I'm going to just be exactly who I am for a while. even if that she is nutcase, lol.
