Exactly. Think of it another way: your marriage is already over. You arent fighting to save it, you are fighting to one day restore it!
How about this one: What if I told you that your W was never going to want to reconcile with you? How would THAT change things? What would you do in that case?
One thing that I've learned throughout this, is that the LAST thing we want to do is 'save our marriage with our current WAS'. This will only lead to the same pattern repeating themselves down the road. And if you do happen to reconcile, you don't want to end up on this site for the same reasons 2 years from now, do you?
The best way to look at it. Is what others continue to say. Do what you need to do to make YOU the best person possible. And if you're WAS does the same, then, and only then, should you consider your option of... not to stay married to WAS, but instead, to end your current marriage, and get remarried to the same person you married before, but with different goals, views, values on life.
