Anyways, got home last night and W starts talking to me about logistical stuff...
Logistical stuff? Are you sure you're married to a woman? JK!
Originally Posted By: PacLove
so DB'ers what are some responses you've used to your W's when they complain about their job? Looking for ideas/help here on how to better validate and connect with her when she opens the door. PL
If you haven't done so yet, go to youtube and search "its not about the nail". It provide a rediculously great view on what's going on in this situation. (Laugh Later).
If she's complaining about her boss or coworkers, it's easy to jump on the train and complain with her, but try something like
"they always put you in these situations, it must be so difficult to deal with that kind of [disrespect/pressure/etc] on a regular basis at work." or "I can't believe your boss did that again/to you. How does he expect you to handle everything when you've already go so much going on?"
Stay away from "If it were me..." statements. She doesn't care how you would handle the situation. Stay away from (obviously), "you just need to XYZ (suck it up, do your best, etc). She doesn't want to hear solutions or answers.
Stick to her and her feelings on the topic. "That must be so hard", "to deal with that daily must be so exhausting". etc.
