Yeah, I guess I've been in denial. All of my thinking up til this point has been - how can I turn her around? I mean she was talking about going to MC just a week and a half ago. Now ... bam. I get served. It's all of a sudden very real to me and I realize I've been living in la la land. All this time I've been thinking of how to get my wife back she's been plotting out her strategy with her Lawyers!
We all do this at the beginning, I found this site by searching the internet for "how to save my marriage" "my wife is leaving me", etc etc... probably the same way most others found it. The good things is, the people here understand that what we should be doing, is usually the exact opposite of what we are doing, and what we are doing, is failing us miserably (thats how we ended up here, right?)
It's a process. You can't stop your brain from creating feelings, ideas, emotions, etc. you can however, choose how long you want to entertain those ideas created, and how you want to act upon them.
You're new here, read the material if you haven't already. Seriosly, everything Cadet posted, All of Sandi's posts (just read every last one of them!) haha. and then see how they relate to your sitch. ask questions about things specifically then. Hang in there. you'll be fine.
