Qt4, I don't want to get divorced either. But I've already mentally accepted its happened. I'm looking at it as, today, I have no wife, and the wife I used to love is already gone (she really is, considering her actions are not one of who I thought I was marrying).
As others on here have said... The "shell" of my W is there, but the woman inside the shell is not the woman I love. It's someone else. Or like some kind of diseased parasite living inside... So yes. As much as I love her, as much as I don't want to lose her, I'm ready, if it does happen.
Yeah, I guess I've been in denial. All of my thinking up til this point has been - how can I turn her around? I mean she was talking about going to MC just a week and a half ago. Now ... bam. I get served. It's all of a sudden very real to me and I realize I've been living in la la land. All this time I've been thinking of how to get my wife back she's been plotting out her strategy with her Lawyers!
On top of that I'm dealing with my new visitation schedule with the kids - and it's ripping my heart out. On top of that I still have a highly stressful job I have to deal with. This is just so horrible.
Me-45, W-37, T-10 yrs, M-9 yrs D -7 yrs, S-5 yrs BD-5/3/16, D filed 6/8/16
