I'm prepared. I have not responded to petition. I meet with L on Wed to go over things. Her petition didn't have a proposal yet of "what she wants" but we are mostly debts, no assets except the house, so I don't expect much from proposal. Half the equity of house maybe, which has been in my name since pre marriage.
Qt4, I don't want to get divorced either. But I've already mentally accepted its happened. I'm looking at it as, today, I have no wife, and the wife I used to love is already gone (she really is, considering her actions are not one of who I thought I was marrying).
As others on here have said... The "shell" of my W is there, but the woman inside the shell is not the woman I love. It's someone else. Or like some kind of diseased parasite living inside... So yes. As much as I love her, as much as I don't want to lose her, I'm ready, if it does happen.
I responded to her text of staying at the house, 'by herself', with a simple, "you're welcome to stay here any time youd like." period. As we're not divorced yet, and legally she lives here, it makes sense. I never kicked her out, she chose to leave. Relationalship-wise though, she is no more than a friendly stranger (we'll, I'm friendly, she's not), so... Would I ever allow a friend to remove me from my house so they could stay in it alone?... NO.
