Sara,
Hold your cards close to your heart. If you're going to tell her parents, I don't see why you have to warn her beforehand.

Is there any way of verifying that the A has ended? If it has, do you think your H is willing to have a transparency plan?

I am not a vet but if their A has really ended, would a difference in the timeline be a big issue?

I understand your pain and your confusion. You're spinning. Is there any family that you can be with now?

You can call me Dory/ Grl.

As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"

It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.