I've read a lot of people situations during my short spell on here and haven't been able compare my W actions to that of anyone else on here and it really gets me down. I read the success stories and think to myself "well that can't possibly happen in my case because I don't think I'm dealing with the same monster"
Some times I wish my W would show some anger or a bit of fight because at least it would show there are still emotions there.
I've read a lot of people situations during my short spell on here and haven't been able compare my W actions to that of anyone else on here and it really gets me down. I read the success stories and think to myself "well that can't possibly happen in my case because I don't think I'm dealing with the same monster"
Some times I wish my W would show some anger or a bit of fight because at least it would show there are still emotions there.
Hi. There is always hope but the trick is not to live for it I've read situations on here just like yours. The W is done and has no intention of trying to repair the M
It's hard to read but apathy from your W is the worst thing because it shows she doesn't care anymore That's not to say forever because things change and the future is unclear
What goals do you have for you , work goals , hobbies, travel ?
Try and focus on you and let W go
As I say we all feel our sitchs are unique but even though they are the nuts and bolts are the same
Re read cadets advice and pay attention to Sandis notes on WAWs
Apathy is the thing I'm scared of the most and if I'm true to myself it's the most realistic answer. We did fall into a routine and things may have got a bit boring, if you gave me a planner I probably could have written down everything we would have done in a week to the exact time we would do it.
The thing that I'm finding hardest to swallow is her lack of fight for our M, I know in my heart that we can get through this and if she let's me in she will see it but I can't get past the wall she's built.
Apathy is the thing I'm scared of the most and if I'm true to myself it's the most realistic answer. We did fall into a routine and things may have got a bit boring, if you gave me a planner I probably could have written down everything we would have done in a week to the exact time we would do it.
The thing that I'm finding hardest to swallow is her lack of fight for our M, I know in my heart that we can get through this and if she let's me in she will see it but I can't get past the wall she's built.
Hi Kyler. The last sentence in your post is 1000% correct. You can't get past the wall. End of story. All you CAN do is become the best Kyler you can and let W do her
Apathy is tough but some get Spew , some get history re writing and some get tears and lots of sadness but we all can only control ourselves
We all feel your pain and we all want this to be resolved for you The only way is through it and you cant skip the process. Your W didn't get this way overnight and if she does ever change her mind it also won't be over night
I'm really struggling to come to terms with the sich I find myself in and I can't shake the mentality of doing everything for my W benefit. I think this fear is if I stop trying to keep our M alive and she has already stopped then that's it, it's as good as done and I may as well file for D.
It wouldn't in the slightest, she would still be the first and last thought on my mind each day, I would still obsess over everything she says and does.
