Almost 10 weeks since she said she didnt love me

[Natus]

Im back to square one with trust now, she says im always looking for faults. Im hoping there are none to show.

She says she feels suffocating by my 'verfication'. I admit its pretty extensive. I have decided to to stop monitoring. More for me than her, its not helping me. Side effect she might feel less suffocated.

That is WW b.s. She's trying to put the spotlight on you instead of herself.

I agree that she did try to put the spotlight on me. I did turn it back to her. We made a "deal' of sorts, that i would give her some breathing space in return she has to write a letter to OM to end any friendship completely.

she says she will work on not being even friends with him

Not good enough. She either is or isn't friends with OM. There is no "trying not to be friends". Was there a boundary in place about her contacting him, or being his friend? If so, what are the consequences for not honoring your boundaries?

Im ashamed to admit this but i was walking out the door with a baseball bat in hand to make sure the OM got the message. She chased me to the door and tried to explain that she was just maintaining civility in the office. I called bull**** and told her sharing things that we discussed as h and W to him is not maintaining office civility.

Did you set up a transparency plan?

Don't go the extreme opposite direction and stick you head in the sand.

I asked for no friendship, no sharing of anything information or otherwise. She still needs to write the letter to OM which i will read before handing it to him. She's deleted her social media from her phone, as well as unlocked her phone. No passwords.

She doesnt get in office early and will text / send me pic who is in office if she needs to stay back but has been leaving office on the dot.

Definately agree i shouldnt stick my head in the sand. But how do i verify without becoming a stalker/