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RDS,

Sorry you are here buddy. I'm going to pass some 2x4's your way...

Detach, 180 and GAL. Do these things for YOU and be genuine about the changes. This is your best shot at getting your W back.

I really appreciate this post. I really do. I've already made mistakes in the past month since she left me, but thankfully I didn't resort to begging and pleading. I've had very little contact with her so I don't know her emotional state.

Until the last 3 years we had a great marriage but then we both became cold to each other. She did thoughtful things for me but I was unwilling to let her know. For instance, when she cooked me dinners and asked me how it was I would barely acknowledge if the dinner was delicious, but if it was't very good I would let her know what was wrong in spades. I was so resentful of her I rarely let an opportunity go by where I didn't find fault with what she did.

Now that she is gone I fully understand what a fool I've been. She has a lot of faults but loving me was not one of them. I knew she loved me deeply and sadly I let that be my "trump" card to be horrible to her. She finally called my bluff.

I willing to make all changes to better myself to be the man I used to be. I allowed myself to become this bitter man towards her. I didn't like it then and I hate it now.