SuperDave is back! Corri I'm sorry and Tim you can talk to me again! I had a good night last night (Friday). Needless to say it involved s*x! Can't post much now - will fill in interesting details later when I've got some time. SuperDave
Hubby got home from a golf trip last night, and yours truly went into action. I realized I have been so grumpy because I just needed to get laid. Whodda thunk it from an LD woman like me?
Soooo.... it was on my agenda to 'do' my H. I am proud to say that he has a very had time laying back and being 'done.' Why am I proud of that? Cause I thought I was the only one with sexual hang-ups, and the discovery made him and me seem all the more human and real. I was able to get rid of an erroneous perception I didn't even realize I had -- that he is somehow perfect in the sexual areana... I don't know, don't ask.
So anyways, we did eyes open kissing, and God love my H's heart, he tried the eyes open O. Can I tell you we giggled darn near the whole way through it. But he did it!
We had FUN last night. It wasn't a long drawn out session, he was really tired and had to get up early this morning. But he was game, and he tried everything I asked him to do. Said he'd read THE BOOK, too. Now what more could a girl ask for?
Oh yes, I do have one more thing to ask. Please give me the titles of the best, bar none, sex 'techniques' type books you've ever read. I have a lot of exploring to do. Lots of 'making up' for lost time kind of thing.
When I kinda took control last night, I realized I had no clue what I wanted to do... I even told him that. He laughed and said 'do whatever you want.' Which was the problem... I had no idea what I wanted to do. I cannot believe what a novice I am at this... which is fine... I don't mind in the least, because I understand there are a lot of things to discover, new ground to be covered, etc., etc. And I thought it was really cool that I realized what a novice I am, and I thought it was even cooler that I realized I really, really want to DO something about that!!
Can I tell you all how happy I am? Since my H has been away and I've read PM, I've been thinking and thinking and thinking what my role in all of this has been. And I think I discovered that I have never, ever, ever given myself permission to be a sexual, sensual woman. I'm sure it has something to do with my childhood perceptions or religion (gag), but I don't really care... and I think I was afraid to show my H this very underdeveloped side of me -- why, I have no clue -- and I have just been flat out afraid of my own sensuality.
Last night was one of the most anxious times of my life, because I didn't know how my H was going to respond to me, and I was afraid I wasn't going to be able to get myself through it, and I was just going to 'shut down' emotionally and be a big ole' dud... but somehow, I got myself through it, and of course he came through with flying colors (every pun intended).
So anyways, titles please. I've got some studying to do.
Ever seen a feline, after walking away from a big ole' bowl of cream, and slooowly walk her way over to the nice sunny spot beneath the window, then she slooowly stretches herself before she lays down for a nap, with a very self-satisfied look on her face? That's me. I'm so gdamn proud of myself I can barely contain it. I am an f'ing machine. :-)
Way to go, girl! You rock! I knew you had it in you!!! THANKS for posting that - it was really good to read. Please make SURE you keep posting about all the great success stories I'm sure you're going to generate in the coming weeks. Fan-effing-tastic!!!!!
Quote: Please give me the titles of the best, bar none, sex 'techniques' type books you've ever read. I have a lot of exploring to do.
Having started with The Joy of Sex in college and bought and discarded plenty of other manuals throughout the years, the two that have a permanent place in our nightstands are Lou Paget's (a woman sex educator) How to Be a Great Lover: Girlfriend to Girlfriend Totally Explicit Techniques that Will Blow His Mind (written for women) and How to Give Her Absolute Pleasure: Totally Explicit Techniques Every Woman Wants Her Man to Know (written for men).
Her books are friendly and tastefully written with line drawings and cover the gamut from kissing to oral stimulation to manual stimulation to intercourse to orgasms to toys and products with ratings unlike most other manuals that seem to mostly emphasize positions (Paget says there are really only 6 basic positions with lots of variations) or esoteric sex techniques.
Reading her books is like listening to a wise, mature, sophisticated good friend. These books can be found at amazon.com (read the reviews there to get an idea of how great these books are) and other bookstores. Have fun.
Even if you're on the right track, you'll get run over if you just sit there. Will Rogers
To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. C. S. Lewis
Corri, Major Applause and Kudos!!!!! You go girl!!!!!
There is a great website that has great sex positive stuff, from toys to books to the Liberator pillows to videos/DVDS. They review stuff and try to take only the good and fun
I am very happy for you. I am right there with ya on the technique books. There have been so many things that were off limits for so many years that I really am uncertain about my abilities (to give a bj, for example). I will be getting the Lou Paget book and maybe we will have another book to start a thread about!
Kudos to you girl. It sounded scary, what you did, but you have guts and persistence and we all knew that already.
I agree about the Lou Paget book being excellent. You might also want to read "Talk Dirty To Me"by Sally Tisdale which is a collection of essays by a very intelligent HD woman.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
