What Should I be doing (5)

[cbtdad]

$hit sandwiches are no good!! There is no way to possibly make them taste better either. But it's great that you understand the process and are processing the emotions. It will be a rollercoaster ride for long time, but it will get better.
I promise you it does.
I use to have all those same thoughts in my head about that
My W texting OM when I was right there, etc
I finally realized that it wasn't my W and that was the A fog.
That's the part where I took my blame. I 100 percent left my W vulnerable and open to an A. She still made her choices and I'm taking all the blame, but I know my role in it. So when I would start getting angry I would remind myself of the things I did as well.
As far as the OM goes. Don't stress about that. It will find its way. If he comes up and apologizes then accept it, keep it simple and walk away.
My W and I are still friends with a couple that she met through the OM. We even went on a cruise together.
I would have never imagined that. So who knows
Remember you can't control it