Out of interest is there ever any benefit to reaching out to your spouse to see if they would agree to spend time with you?
I'm thinking of trying to arrange a meet up in a couple of weeks to just be in each others company, no relationship talk, no funny business but just to see if that spark is still there.
Kyle, it's a bad idea...
I know how much you want to be with her, to just laugh and pretend like everything is ok for an afternoon... I did it, I knew I shouldn't and it would have consequences, but I did it (I'm not proud). I actually think it had less of a negative effect in my case because I lived in the same house with my W anyway, so it wasn't like she would missed me if I was doing my own thing for those two hours.. But in your case, she really needs to miss you, and when she sees you, she needs to see somebody that she wants to call and see if you wanna hang out with her.
If you do it anyway, just be prepared for zero spark, if there was spark right now she'd be trying to move back in with you. You still have spark, it's her spark that needs to come back, and the more you Persue, the longer that will take.
M - 9 1/2 years 5/5/16 - Bomb drop - 3 week EA 10/31/16 - We sold house 01/10/18 - D Finalized
