Im back to square one with trust now, she says im always looking for faults. Im hoping there are none to show.
She says she feels suffocating by my 'verfication'. I admit its pretty extensive. I have decided to to stop monitoring. More for me than her, its not helping me. Side effect she might feel less suffocated.
That is WW b.s. She's trying to put the spotlight on you instead of herself.
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she says she will work on not being even friends with him
Not good enough. She either is or isn't friends with OM. There is no "trying not to be friends". Was there a boundary in place about her contacting him, or being his friend? If so, what are the consequences for not honoring your boundaries?
Did you set up a transparency plan?
Don't go the extreme opposite direction and stick you head in the sand.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
