Hi Huddy. , how do you know ? At this point what's your thinking re W Are you able to let go of the rope and accept that the M is over or are you still waiting for that Eureka moment
I ask because you seem to have done so well and been coping that this episode seems to have put you back.
I'm very mindful of your feelings when I'm posting this and not because you can't take 2x4s but because I wonder do you know what you want
Obviously you want your family back but at what cost to you ? I've followed your thread from day one and I'm in no doubt you deserve a W that truly loves you I've seen you deal with the ups and downs of your sitch and you are a good man with a good heart
If your W was to ask to come home what issues would she have to resolve for you to take her back , what's Huddys wish list in a M
IMHO you are doing what I do and looking for hope constantly and I'm not sure that's something that's helping you move forward
Let's say W set you up to see if you would react. To what end ? Your seperated a while now and W can date or not date , her choice , you reacting to it would do what ? Step back a minute and let's say you did ask about it because your S had pointed it out ? You could have said , I see your dating , how's that going ? No reaction other than what any person involved in someone's else's life might make
If W was looking , was it because she wants to find love or is she bored ? And filling her time
The issue is Huddys detachment ( and again , I'm no expert on this ) As long as you care so much W can see this in you and you could be making this ordeal longer for yourself.
Just my thoughts buddy It's a cr@p situation but what we can't ignore we must endure
