Need a fresh start...but he's still here

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Imagine you know for a fact that H will snap out of his fog but that will take five years. At which time you will have the happy fulfilling R that we all dream of. What are you going to do during that time.

Many will advise that regardless if H leaves or not the work/actions you need to be doing are the same. You need to really embrace that. I understand that having H there can have it's disadvantages but it is also a chance that many here don't have. Appreciate that.

I often drop by your thread but admit I have not read everything.I will take the time soon to do so as I can relate strongly to your situation.I would like to share some thoughts and insights if I can.

I think that it is positive that H comes back to you with an excuse/reason for his behaviour.IIt shows he knows his behaviour was not right/respectful of you and it cared enough to mention it. I would not read too much into his reasons..... remember believe nothing. Poor communication succks.You cannot resolve that alone but have you looked into how you respond to him?

I got to go but I'll be back. Until then best wishes