Do you want to stay married? I am not asking if you want to continue the same situation but do you want to be married to your H? Think about why ye got together, his good points, if ye can get past current problems can you see ye being happy?There are loads more questions bit in essence reflect deeply on that and be clear what you want.

This is a long draining process that will take all youhave to follow through. You need to be sure it is what you want, to find the motivation to do what is required.

You have found a good place, with loads of people who feel lost like you. Together we take steps towards healing, becoming stronger better people and ultimately a better chance of saving our Ms.

Best wishes. Keep posting

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R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together