...the start of something: papers?

[trumpet]

Your wife is still your wife, betterm. Her brain just fell out - HA!

There is truth in that - the shell is still standing, and you still see her. My ex is now a shell of my former wife. I really don't see a whole lot of what she WAS. She has a right to change. We all need to understand we change over time - that is the only constant.

However, love means sacrificing for each other, but never taking the 1+1 and reducing it down to less than two. I was a psuedo-nice guy. I have a tyrant of an ex, who came to disrespect me since I was the nice guy. I have wants and dreams now, and they are vivid. Find the dreams that might have put in your back pocket. Some aren't worth keeping. Find a few dreams, make a new bucket list, and do a couple. Don't get overwhealmed at it all, and don't keep wishing the old WW is there - exercise your 'singleness' muscle, exercise your 'manliness' muscle, and see what happens!

The D train is happening - the clock is ticking. You can let it have control over you, or you can put it on the shelf, with the other problems you deal with. Don't bury it - the timer is still ticking! - but make sure it's not the wet blanket in your life.

Create a list, a small list - of the 10 things you are most grateful for. Try not to focus on the wife - bring the lens onto you, your birth family, your job, your friends, your local world. Read that for a few days - make a new list - read it for a few days.

DB'ing is a journey to find you again.