...the start of something: papers?

[trumpet]

betterm,

Your WW has to pick. She's trying to cake-eat.

Some people try everything to coerce a choice out of her. Her choice is her choice. Influencing it might have been the way the R worked, but for her to take ownership and WANT to be with you, she has to want it, and work on it.

Now, if you're putting on weight, looking like a champ, not a chump, and have made yourself into a man only a fool would leave, you will see her again. Maybe not. Either way, you win! But short-term, it feels like every day is a gut-punch. The victory is in surviving the rounds and getting back up each time.