What is your boundary wrt to NC with OM? If your W has made the offer to have NC, I won't call your actions snooping. I will call it trust but verify.
Is your W looking for a new job?
I asked that they not even be friends. She maintains that she hadn't been speaking to him but just spilled that one time i decided to snoop. I'm having a hard time reconciling that.
Shes says shes not choosing anyone, that shes choosing herself but so far her actions make me feel otherwise. Maintaining "friendship" with OM, checking his Instagram daily behind my back. I told her actions speaks louder than words.
Im back to square one with trust now, she says im always looking for faults. Im hoping there are none to show.
She says she feels suffocating by my 'verfication'. I admit its pretty extensive. I have decided to to stop monitoring. More for me than her, its not helping me. Side effect she might feel less suffocated.
she says she will work on not being even friends with him. On account they still have to see each other in the office for next 3 weeks.
Funny thing i asked her about kissing me before going off to work, she said she felt obliged too. I told her i wont oblige her anymore.
Come morning shes waiting at the door to give me a kiss before work. I suppose that's something.
Me31 W31 M11yrs S6yrs 23Mar16-BD 9Apr16-W admitted EA w boss. 27Jun16-W Changed job and promised NC w OM. 14Jul16-Continued contact w OM.Start of Separation. 24May17-Divorced.
