...the start of something: papers?

[trumpet]

Betterm,

She is so conflicted. If you give her anything to chew on mentally, I'll reach right through this computer and smack you!

She HAS to work this out on her own. She's asking for your validation for her to feel the feelings she's had in her heart for a while - she wants both worlds.

Honey, you have to pick. One or the other.
YOU have to help her make that choice. Giving in will let her live in both worlds. It's a no-no.

If anything has to be said, you can let her know you appreciate the texts, but until further notice, you're taking time out to process everything that just happened in your life. You would appreciate all the space possible, and you are more than happy to provide the same.

No kids makes this much easier.

You will need to mourn the loss of the marriage. Imagine her dying. It will be very, very hard. You will go on the divorce diet without knowing it, and lose some weight. It's ok.

Work out. I mean, make a plan. You have WAAAAYYY too much energy right now. It has to get burned off.

Reconnect with male friends and if possible male brothers. You need male companionship, which sounds opposite of what you're craving, but you need to take a bit of the 'red-pill' and get more comfortable in your manhood.

You can do this. I am watching you. I am rooting for you to win, and save the marriage. Do what I say - do what Sandi says. (I hope they agree!)

You have played a tremendous game of catch with your wife. It's time to catch the ball, pull off the mitt, and walk home. The game is done. You need to act as if there will no longer be a game of catch with your wife - ever.

Tough to say. Tougher to act on. You can do it.