WW, My Addiction, My D, my new life...

[trumpet]

So, update time.

For those catching up, I D'd on 5/25/16.
Still living in the same house until 6/15/16.

Since the last update:
-Formalized the loan, and closing date as 6/15
-EX-WW has refi'd the marital home in her name. I am now officially a squatter until 6/15.
-I continue to detach and say very little, if anything to ex-WW. She has made comments to me that I am terrible at co-parenting, since I don't talk with her. I informed her text messages concerning the kids, and kids only, will be what to expect, unless it concerns the house/bills/insurance/divorce button-ups.
-As the day of move-out approaches, the ex-WW ha become more angry and hostile. She has traded in the wedding ring, done within a week of D, and bought diamond earrings with the proceeds. She proceeded to ask how pretty they were, repeatedly, until I acknowledged them. I did ask if she was showing me to just hurt me, which she said yes. Sandi - the heart of a wayward knows no bounds to their anger and vileness!
-She has turned in our joint lease early, which we had planned to buy out and give to D14 in a year, to purchase a brand new, way more expensive vehicle, just for herself.
-I have depleted most of my funds, and have bought out the cell phone plan, so that I can be on my own. Getting second-hand furniture for the new place, but got new plates and silverware. Glad I'm a miser for the most part, and have no debt besides the new condo.
-I have been yelled at, told repeatedly to leave her house, told to stop petting the dog, sworn at, told that I am a disgusting individual for having an addiction, been told I'm getting a lawsuit filed against me if I talk about her 'boyfriend' ('friend' turned into 'boyfriend' within days of the D becoming final), and been locked out of the house.
-My EX-WW has made plans to take D14 to do an 'overnight' at boyfriend's house in Chicago. D14 wants to go to an anime convention. EX-WW thinks it's just fine to introduce her new man to our daughter. I think it's disgusting.
-EX-WW unblocked me from Facebook the day of the divorce. I blocked her immediately.

I have gotten tons of support from my family and church friends. Most are shocked how fast the D went. I stayed quiet for the most part, but did share that EX-WW has a boyfriend. I let most draw their own conclusions, but those at church haven't seen her in a month, and she was sporatic attending the month before that, so I think she's done with hearing that adultery is bad for a while. By the way, she says that my telling others 'my version of the truth' is very hurtful, and isn't appreciated.

Soooooo... lessons to be learned:
Living with the EX after divorce is very, very hard. Harder as you approach leaving. I think if I had to rewind the entire ordeal, one of us should have left early on. I would have tried to get her to leave, but she is one of the most stubborn women I know.
Wayward Wives can dig themselves such a hole that they might have/probably have burned any chance at reconciliation. I'm not putting limits on what God can do, but what has been done and said to me is beyond what I thought was capable out of my EX-WW.
You are who you keep as your close circle of friends. I have some very devout Christian friends; my EX-WW, not so much. She left those who she talked with at church alone for the last 6 months. They would have attempted to talk sense into her, but the infatuation of someone who could 'ease her inner pain' was too great. The friends she keeps now are all divorced, pronounced feminists, or children of divorced parents, man of which had dad-issues.
That I can, and will, come out of this in better mental and physical health than at any time in my life.
I still love my EX-WW. I will be mourning the loss of the marriage, my friend, and the family unit. This doesn't mean I can't move on, it's just the mourning will take more time than I thought.
I can love another woman as much, or more, than my EX-WW.
I cannot fix a woman with life issues.
That there are many of us out there, who have lived through a D, with an angry, bitter WW, and come out better than what we thought we could. I have many, many D'd single and remarried dudes that testify to that fact.

Things that I still need to work on:
Being grateful EVERY DAY for the things that God has given me.
Exercising EVERY DAY to keep the blues away
Being patient for the muddy jar to settle, so that I can see clearly through the jar, and move forward into another relationship.
Being humble, and letting my pride fall away from me. This is a tough one.

Thank you to all who have contributed to my threads. I'll continue to stop in and give a few cents here or there. I have to let you know how the last week of co-habitation goes, and how the new place shapes up.

Please keep checking in with me. Bless you all.

Trumpet.