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[RDS]

Today is the one month "anniversary" of when I found out about the BD, although it actually happened May 5 when my D and I left to go to TX for her graduation for her Masters' degree. She used the weekend to move out and take a lot of our stuff with her. I still don't know where she lives.

The day we returned from TX and found out the W moved out was Mother's day so that upsets my D a lot. Luckily my D is pretty busy finishing her thesis so she hasn't had too much time to dwell on it.

Our contact has been extremely limited and after I hired a lawyer and served her spousal support papers it's been nearly non-existent. Her best friend told me the W won't talk to me because the paper says she isn't allowed to converse with me. I know my W knows better because the wording on the papers says something along the lines of "harassment contacts". I've shown the papers to a few people and they all say it's pretty obvious that casual contact is okay, but not the harassment kind. I think it's just an excuse for my W not to come to terms that we will have to communicate sometime in the future.

As I said, I don't know where she moved to. That's irritating because she obviously knows where I live. Occasionally when I get home from work there will be a couple of bags of old pictures of us and some of my old military memorabilia will be on the porch from when she left it there during the day. I don't know why she is doing that. I don't text, email, or call here to let her know I got the stuff. My D did tell me my W was happy that I didn't throw some of the stuff away. I almost did because usually I'm not the sentimental kind of guy, but my D talked me out of getting rid of it. I guess I should be happy I did not throw it away.

She has until June 22 to respond to the papers. I'm thinking I should not initiate any contact with her until after that. She told my D she could not afford a lawyer to contest the financial arrangement of our separation. I am not sure of that because she knows a lot of people, including lawyers, so I'm sure she can get help with that.

I've been reading the DR religiously. It would only help me now. If I had the book 6 months ago it would not have helped. Back then I didn't care about my marriage because I thought splitting with my W would be a godsend. How wrong I was. I just hope there is still time.