Confused now. I went to see the new therapist, he's also psychiatrist, many years of experience, doing couples therapy/workshops together with his wife - who is also therapist, successful in saving marriages etc.... Went alone. H never responded to my offer to join, most likely because, as he let me know on Monday morning, he was away for work Mon & Tue. Or he simply doesn't care.

I spent almost 2 hours there. He told me he doesn't believe in MLC! Similarly to the previous therapist. He strongly recommended me to run. He said that some marriages are not savable & that my H is very insecure man, unable to truly love, has a motor in him that forces him to selfdustruct & he destroys everyone around him. He said I have responsibility for myself and my life & I should end the marriage while I'm still young.

He said I seem to be a strong woman who doesn't need his help, it's my husband who does but he wouldn't like to work with him as based on what I said about what he did during the joint session with previous therapist H doesn't seem to be fully committed to working on himself to get better.

Well, I'm not sure I can do that - to "run"... Still care too much for him, for our family. Though I'm much better than I was right after he left I still have difficult days, like last Saturday when I could not stop crying during the night. We had really nice afternoon/evening with kids, just the 3 of us. When I went to bed I got so sad that H was not part of it. I still feel like sharing those happy moments with him.

So, not ready to give up but not sure what to do either. I haven't seen H since last joint therapy. We sms-ed a few times. It seems that he still plans to go for the long trip with us. I didn't ask but he bought last remaining tickets we needed for the 4 of us. It's terrible we cannot even discuss his plans, nothing.
I guess I continue keeping distance till the trip and will think what to do when back.

Btw, Job, I did consider forwarding the e-mail of the previous therapist to his board but didn't do it yet. Maybe I should...