Best wishes mate. It can't be easy. Once ye iron out some teething issues and you show you are not her puppet, things may settle into a workable routine.

Keep an eye on how much anger or resentment you let be seen. Better still work towards not feeling it. Either work through it or change your thinking.Not easy but you will feel better

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together