You are right. I'm going to re- read this post when I feel like I need an answer. We dated for 4 years before we were married and I gave him an ultimatum then, so I need to work on his time frame and realize he needs the time to work on himself. We are now 9 months into this. I wish I knew what he was thinking.


M 25 T 29
D 22 S 18
BD 9-11-15
H says he's ambivalent about staying in the marriage