...the start of something: papers?

[PacLove]

When she showed up last night to "just say hi", my emotions did tell me that "HEY THIS IS YOUR WINDOW OF OPPORTUNITY TO PROVE YOURSELF TO HER"... And, I don't know how in the world I didn't jump all over that change to "prove myself", but I think I'm glad I didn't. I know I've already posted about this, but I have ran that scenario through my head a hundred times today, analyzing what happened, why it happened, why she showed up at all, and how i could've handled it better...

...because still, right now, I feel like I missed an opportunity. I hope I'm just overthinking things again. Needs to stop.

betterm - I struggle with this exact same question every time she opens the door... do I let her in or not. It's perhaps the one concept in DB that I struggle with the most. I not text/email, GAL, do my own thing, but when she engages - it is an opportunity in my mind to show her that I do respect her and do love her and can be there for her (which have been some of the marital issues).

I think this is where the "validation" part comes in, if they reach out and talk you can validate, but don't necessarily initiate - which is what I've been trying hard to do.

Did your friend state how they reconciled? I think as long as an OM is in the picture its very tough - their mind is somewhere else.