I was talking to a friend of mine who's recently recovered his relationship from some pretty serious damage (2 PA's, lots of MC/IC etc).
He was saying that my W's activity, her actions right now, are very similar to what he was dealing with. WW was saying she wants him out of the house, wants separation, etc.
But once she got into IC/MC, it was discovered she didn't REALLY want those things, but what she REALLY wanted, was for him, the LBS, to show her that he's committed, that he's serious about making the relationship work for the future, that she can trust him to protect her heart
I said, yeah, that's all fine and great for you and your crazy wife, and I wish it was that easy, but it's just not happening right now.
When she showed up last night to "just say hi", my emotions did tell me that "HEY THIS IS YOUR WINDOW OF OPPORTUNITY TO PROVE YOURSELF TO HER"... And, I don't know how in the world I didn't jump all over that change to "prove myself", but I think I'm glad I didn't. I know I've already posted about this, but I have ran that scenario through my head a hundred times today, analyzing what happened, why it happened, why she showed up at all, and how i could've handled it better...
...because still, right now, I feel like I missed an opportunity. I hope I'm just overthinking things again. Needs to stop.
