I understand you are only trying to help and I really appreciate it. I'm very aware she has a different perspective on the situation, what's causing me pain is that her perspective is the only one being recognized in the eyes of the court friends in laws neighbors, etc. even now the case is dismissed I still feel like I've been put though a 4 week ordeal and a court case, and portrayed as the villain and was not even able to do anything about it.
Me-45, W-37, T-10 yrs, M-9 yrs D -7 yrs, S-5 yrs BD-5/3/16, D filed 6/8/16
No, it's not over unless you want it to be over. There are a lot of people on this forum who's wives have filed (including mine). Check out betterm's thread; he just got his notice yesterday.
So are you guys still trying to work it out w your spouse even if they file? Can you even turn around that situation?
That's like - this person is stabbing me in the back, how can I DB them so they will want to reconcile w me? I mean is that even an appropriate thought to be having?
Me-45, W-37, T-10 yrs, M-9 yrs D -7 yrs, S-5 yrs BD-5/3/16, D filed 6/8/16
DB is for you. You can still do it during and after the D. I am still trying whether my W comes back or not I will be a better man for either her (if she opens her eyes) or someone else.
H-46 XW-38 T-7 M-6 S-9,8,8,6,4 S 11/30/15, I filed 12/8/15 EA 2/1/16 D dismissed 3/24/16 PA 3/18/16 confirmed 4/22/16 XW files for D 4/1/16 - D final 11/17/16 Finally moving forward...
You don't turn the situation around. You work on yourself and GAL. Get your mind off of your wife and your marriage. Stop pursuing your wife. Have as much fun as possible and enjoy yourself and your life.
