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#268408 04/05/04 09:24 AM
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Super Success! Thanks to everyone who gave me support last week and boosted my confidence. Friday night was a success I'm pleased to report. No problems with rejection or "Woody". Saturday night we spent in a nice hotel but I respected the boundary and did not initiate anything - we watched the football (soccer) highlights together which was nice.
SD - nothing at all to vent about (well I've had a good sh@gging haven't I?)

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my success story - H ended A 26 days ago, is showering me with love, attention and the sex is improving if anyone fancies some light relief, here is my thread - progressing like treacle

worthy of recognition - hairdog's creative signoffs
+ Hairdog, self-elected dictator of the self-named Weiner Brothers, named in honor of Michele Weiner-Davis, without whom, this site would not exist, and with whom, we continue to suffer from the delusion that our sitch's will improve.
+ Hairdog, King of Compassion.
+ Hairdog, who thinks all men are pigs, because he is one.
+ Hairdog, who, predictably, had a fight with his wife this evening...after all, it's the beginning of the weekend and she needs some reason to reject me, right?
+ Hairdog, who's taking off from work early, to go home and bake his wife a birthday cake from scratch.
+ Hairdog, who secretly wants to wear the thong himself! Just kiddin'. I already tried it on in the store. Does absolutely nothing for my hairy a$$.

err, i gotta run now, but will continue combing through posts for a complete listing - cranks up the ol PMA no end. thanks, guys. slowly


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Wow, thanks, Slowly. Didn't know I had a fan out there. You're not one of those stalker fans, are you?

No success to report, guys, except that W and I went a whole weekend without fighting.

Hairdog, who's sore today from messing around with bushes last weekend...but not the bush he wanted to mess around with.

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Okay, so last night I was feeling pretty down about my sitch, down about myself, just pretty down and frustrated. Spent pretty much the last 2 weeks working furiously and continuously to get this blasted painting project done, and finally accomplished it, but I also had a DESPERATE need to communicate with W, and it didn't seem promising that anything good would happen anytime soon. See my last post from last night in "Postcards from the Edge."

Just after I made that post, though, I went back upstairs to watch some more TV. It was about 10:00, and I turned on the CBC news and started watching that. W was just finishing up the shower she had taken, so I figured she'd come back and sit down to watch with me. We were both very beat.

However, much to my surprise, she came into the living room and said "Do you want to take a shower?" Well, I knew very well what that meant, and of course I don't need to be asked twice, so off I went to have my shower. Just for good measure, I made sure to use the mouthwash and even spritzed-on a little cologne from a sample I have (just so you know, I got this sample a YEAR ago when I bought her a bottle of perfume for Valentine's Day, it's just a tiny little vial with a spray top, and it's STILL more than half full...). When I went to the bedroom, I brought a small night-light with me and plugged it in.

The AstroGlide still hasn't arrived , so we're still using the last of the K-Y Jelly. She had a sample of K-Y "warming gel", but I said it might be better if she first tried that somewhere like her ARM, just in case it might be TOO much. However, she let ME put the K-Y on, and told me how she wanted it. Needless to say, this was a HUGE turn-on for me, and got things off to a VERY good start. Think of the theme song on the Chevy Truck ads (or is it Dodge Ram? "Like a rock" for the benefit of those who've never seen them). And this even though I had stolen a moment around lunchtime to "take care of myself" (mb8).

I won't post all the gory details (hey, let's leave the lady SOME privacy!), but suffice to say that as I was ML to HER, SHE was ML to ME! There was lots of kissing, and she was kissing back! WooHoo! In many ways, it was like old times. It was a VERY pleasant 40 min or so, and we switched positons 3 times. And when I finished, she still hadn't, and she let me finish her. At the end, she said "Wow, it still works!"

So... I'm not reading too much into this, all our issues are NOT suddenly solved, but it is what it is, and it was a HUGE gift from her to me, and I recognize it as such. I'll consider it my Birthday Sex, 2 days late, but better (MUCH better) late than never. Can't wait for the AG to arrive!!!


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#268412 04/05/04 12:37 PM
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Great news, Tim. What a nice surprise!

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That's great tim. Excellent news...I needed to hear some success from you.

We used the Kamsutra kit last night. I was unable to have any contact with my W below the waist because of her monthly visitor . She tried the "cooling gel" on my privates and it burned so severely that I had to run into the shower. Otherwise, the honey dust made it fun to lick each other all over. Lots of good making out, "tongue play", and even some dirty talk. Like tim, I'll save the gory details of how things progressed but where the evening lacked in the "actual act", it definitely made up for in variety.


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#268414 04/05/04 12:45 PM
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Quote:

...unable to have any contact with my W below the waist because of her monthly visitor...




Your hangup, or hers? Hasn't been an issue at my house for several years now (there are SOME nice things about menopause!!).

Oh, and I made sure to tell her several times (even during!) how sexy she was. Peppered her face, breasts and tummy afterward with kisses. I definitely let her know JUST how much I appreciated it...



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You are right! I have been battling with this issue for quite some time now.

At times I feel like BnB - it is such a great, wonderful connection and it is one of the few times H has been truthful about his feelings about us. Good or bad feelings - but it's been one of the few times I've gotten him to open up about his true feelings.

When we ML - there are times where I am at peace and hopeful & full of strength. But then there are times when I question if I am actually letting him miss anything about me.

What a tangled web we weave?

I've decided to back off! Little by little of course. If I do it cold-turkey he'll know I am not being sincere or I am upset about something. Gotta try something different and monitor the results.

For the first time in a long time, yesterday night H called and I didn't answer my home phone or cell phone. When H called this morning to speak to D3 - first thing he said was "I called last night"..and I simply replied "I went to the movies and by the time I got back it was too late to call you back"...I know he wasn't too thrilled about that.

Anyway, didn't mean to "hijack" this thread.

Just my thoughts on this on going million dollar question.

Thanks for listening.

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Aunt Flo hasn't visited my W since her uterus was removed two years ago. My W line is "who needs a uterus anyway". She got to keep her ovaries so all else is good but Flo is permanently banned from our house. We never let her stop us before anyway, that is what the shower was for. We still enjoy the shower at our house but now it is for getting away from the kids for a "nooner".

Tim,
Glad to hear your W was an "active participant". I wonder if they feel half as connected as we do after wondeful LM. As soon as my W efforts increased I made sure mine did and all I can say is continued reciprocity rocks. No pun intended.

When your done in the shower offer her a full body massage with her favorite lotion. She will love it and you might even get another "opportunity". Picture this. She is in afterglow and naked and completely relaxed. She will be putty in your hands and you will have a another reason to visit this thread.

TBONE

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Wow, this thread had dropped all the way to the second page! Let's see if we can keep it on Page 1, at least!

Last evening did not start on an encouraging note. When she picked me up from work, W was complaining of being extremely tired, and also having a sore throat. So I pretty much had resigned myself to having to be patient a bit. Supper was leftover Easter ham, which was nice, and also meant there was very little to clean up. I made sure I did quite a bit of the clearing and tidying afterward. I spent some time on the computer, mostly selecting photos from the weekend to order prints for (digital cameras are great!). I had taken 58 pictures, of which I'll print 35. About 8:00 I went upstairs, and we watched a bit of TV. She was balancing the checkbook and reading. About 9:30, after having picked up S18 from work, she said she was going to "take a quick bath to warm up" (the weather here is kind of cold and rainy at the moment). Hmm... take a bath... can anyone say "Pavlov?"

While she was out getting S18, I had gotten the SSM book out and was reading it. I started at page 27, and read through to around page 42 or so. While she was in the bath, I put it away. She finished her bath, and we watched about half of Leno (we get the previous night's Leno at 10:00). While we were watching Leno, I was rubbing her shoulder, brushing her cheek with the backs of my fingers and stroking her arm gently, and she was responding in cuddly fashion. This was VERY nice for me, it caused me to feel very tender and loving towards her, and I could feel her tender, loving feelings for me - when I'd brush her cheek with my fingers, she would press her cheek towards me, in sort of a little "cheek hug".

As I turned the TV off, we cuddled a bit on the couch, and I could sense that she wasn't really up to ML, so I made my usual preparations for bed. When we got in bed and were saying goodnight, she wistfully said that she had wanted to ML, but just wasn't up to it. However, we did cuddle some more... she didn't want to kiss me, because she didn't want to give me her sore throat (just in case she was coming down with something contageous), but I was kissing her cheek, and cuddling against her, and she was responding in kind. I lightly caressed the fronts and backs of her thighs, and her buttocks also, and it was just a nice, warm, cuddly time. I was very much "at attention", and I'm sure she knew it, and I was almost thinking that perhaps she might not mind a bit of mb8 session, but decided not to press my luck, so I took care of myself afterward, but the cuddling had DEFINITELY helped me out there as well. I made sure I told her that she had made me feel loved, and this morning while I was shaving, we shared a hug and I again told her how nice the cuddling had been last night.

This morning before I made my lunch I noticed that there were some dishes from last night in the draining rack, so I put those away and also put all the dirty dishes into the dishwasher. She noticed, and thanked me! So I'm definitely counting last evening as a great success!


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