The things I wil take from this situation is I really understand my W (well at least the one from before) I have really learnt where I was broken, I own my share of this. I used to be so good at listening and validating without defense but as stresses (and we have had a lot of these) took its toll on me and I lost that strength to ride all the waves, to not take things personally and to just be there for the woman I loved. I'm still rebuilding, will add new parts as I go but I know my direction again, I know who I want to be. Felt much clearer today, no doubt I will still have my down days, but feel good.
I may not save my M as she has work to do on herself but I will be stronger in the end. I will get there and I know someone will get a really good one. As we met at a wedding that I was Best Man, my W always said I was the best man and the best man. I will make that guy even better.
I know everyone here is suffering but I do want to say thank you for sharing because I have learnt so much and will continue to do so.
I see now more than ever through my W's eyes, again I only have my share, but when I was broken I could only see through my own. I couldn't see through hers, I do now.
I will keep learning through this, it isn't what I wanted but I will learn. Thank you all and will keep praying for you all in my own way.
