I'm a little conflicted on my feelings of EA/OM. I quit thinking about it all together, thinking if she's going to do it, she's going to do it. I haven't snooped in over a week and it's been 100x more peaceful for me. Thanks for making me want to snoop again, doodler! Jk, I'm not putting myself through that anymore.
The EA was heavy back the week of 4/2. I saw some texts where she basically said 'I have to stop talking to you" around 4/10. It went dead for 3-4 weeks, other than 1-2 texts from him to her during this time (she never responded). Then, around 5/10, she was responding a bit, and shortly after, it turned to 3,5,10,15 minute phone calls. I haven't snooped since I confronted her, and don't plan on it anymore.
He's married, coming up on 2 years too, he's not 'handsome', he's kind of unintelligent, but he listened to her I'm sure. Him and his wife (and both families) are very 'christian value' religious. (Har Har Har!) I just try not to think about it for now. I've already "forgiven" her for whatever happened, and I'll take blame for creating the void in her that allowed her to stray. I don't forgive the action of the EA (or PA if it happened), but I do forgive the person committing the action (including myself, which I'm still working on).
I honestly don't think he's a MAJOR influencer, as I don't see him leaving his W, but you never know. I'm sure he is a valid influencer, as someone who's shown my wife she is worthy of being listened to, cared for, and respected by other men... His W's sister is married to a friend of mine, so I could always gather intel if I wanted to, but honestly, I just don't care about knowing that kind of stuff right now. That doesn't help me focus on me.
I was served D papers yesterday. Like I said, All I can do right now is do me. Not worry about what others are doing in life, whether right or wrong.
