It is difficult because my W is so adamant it's over and that all love for me is gone
32. Do not believe anything they say and 50% of what they do. Your spouse will speak in absolute negatives because he/she is hurting and scared.
Keep your chin up.
darknes has entered the room, and unfortunately, he's right. At the time, the hurtful things my WW was saying to me were devastating to hear. Even after I learned rule #32, it' still hard to overcome the words that you know she doesn't mean.
Looking back though, right now I think of some of the things that came out of her mouth, and I can't help but laugh at how ridiculous she was being. It's thoughtless lashing out, there is no logic or meaning behind what she is saying, just keep that in the back (or front) of your mind at all times.
ps, regrettably, this is true for the "good" things she may say as well. My W told me she wasn't going to file, the day before she retained and started the process. so it's a 2-way street.
